Friday, July 22, 2005

I don’t know why, but I feel like this is going to be more of a descriptive thing. Sometimes when I write to something that applies, it becomes more of a teaching thing, a talking-to-myself-to-understand-it-better sort of thing.

A real woman:

1. First and foremost, again, her first goal must be to please Christ and live a life in submission to Him

2. She is full of the fruit of the spirit

3. Her second goal is to please her husband - and to be in total submission to him (see note below)

4. She loves her husband and her children and is supportive of her husband’s dreams and ambitions

5. Her beauty comes from inside (but doesn’t mean it doesn’t show on the outside!). Show me a woman who is truly loving, kind, patient, humble, helpful, and that gets along well with others, then ask who thinks she‘s ugly. Show me a woman who is a backstabber and a gossip, pouts constantly, never stops complaining, and ask who thinks she’s beautiful.

6. She never nags her husband

7. She never puts her husband down in public - or in front of their children - and doesn’t gossip about his faults with her girl friends (speaking of which, she probably won‘t spend a whole lot of time with, now that she has five kids and a sixth on the way).

8. She prepares food for her family - if a woman is going to be married, she may as well learn how to cook well - and takes care of the household chores. That might mean subbing it out to the kiddos when they grow up.

9. In the case that she isn‘t married, she‘s under the authority of her father

10. She is industrious and hardworking, as described in Proverbs 31.

11. She is disciplined (enough so to get up before dawn, if necessary, Proverbs 31 again).

12. She is hospitable

13. She has a quiet and gentle spirit. I don’t think this means ‘quiet personality’, although being loud and yelling all of the time seems to be an indicator of some sort of other problem. This goes along with the submission thing. Speaking of which…

I can just see someone thinking ‘total submission’ is getting permission for every breath and every blink of your eyes.

Submission: 1. yielding, or readiness to yield: a willingness to yield or surrender to somebody, or the act of doing so
Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2004 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

Yield: 4. give way: to give way or give up further resistance
Encarta ® World English Dictionary © & (P) 1998-2004 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

In my opinion, submission is when you live in harmony by your willingness to change according to your husband‘s wishes, whether he communicates them verbally - or in a different way. Yes, when he gags, and frowns after eating the boiled broccoli and mustard pasta goulash, it does mean that he wants you to cook something more palatable. Submission doesn’t mean bugging your husband about amoral things that he’s not asking you to yield to. Is it possible to yield to something that doesn’t exist? Use common sense. How nice would it be to your husband if you demanded that he order your every move? “Honey, open the dryer. Take the clothes out. Put them in the basket. Fold the laundry. Go up the stairs. Open the drawers. Put the clothes away.” Etc., etc.. On the other hand, he could just ask you to take care of the laundry and know that in the case that anything is not to his satisfaction, you would be willing to change your method. Same thing on a bigger scale. Be willing to change cheerfully and without any resentment. You’re not in charge, but that doesn’t mean you are free from micro decisions, or any other decisions your husband has placed you in charge of.

Ok…got off on a rant here. I just can’t shake the images friends have conjured up in their descriptions of bad examples of supposed ‘submission‘. Guys, correct me if you think the above paragraph is incorrect. That’s just the idea I have of submission.

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